TYING A KNOT TO A MAN OR TO THE $$$$$$? | Tuesday, August 16, 2005
- By Astitwa Team

A girl getting married to a man residing in foreign country, earning in dollars or pounds is being a very major concern of our Nepalese society. Its a kind of fashion growing up in our culture. Parents are so much fascinated when they receive such marriage proposal for their daughter. They are on the seventh heaven thinking of their biggest dream coming true. Every parent dream of their daughter getting married to a very gentle, educated, and rich guy from a reputed family. They make quick decisions at the very moment without thinking the consequences of the marriage. They neither bother asking their daughter nor even try to make enquiries regarding the guy. They find their daughters being very lucky for her changed fate after such proposal. But the convergence of such dream into reality can make your life fragile.

http://astitwa.com/updates/august_sotm.php

This paper has zero evidence to back its claim. If the author claims to have proven his/her point by citing just two examples, then, well, I can prove that 4 is the largest number of all.

C grade paper.

hmmm....interesting. Well I guess there is always a risk with marriage. Most of the time, ppl do not really know their prospective spouse beforehand. And even after years of marriage, people change. So the best solution for the faint hearted is to remain single.

But i agree that the difficulty of doing a proper background check on a suitor living abroad carries a higher degree of risk. In efficient (financial) markets, higher risk is rewarded with higher returns. i guess the marriage market is no different. ppl are willing to take the extra risk for the higher standard of living, and the freedom from meddling sasu sasuras to do whatever they want.

My grade for the essay: B-

I gave it a B because it was poorly written, and quite frankly i found the lachrymose tone rather annoying. The minus (-) was for ending the essay with the useless and obvious statement "....today because today determines the fate of your destiny. "

Oh what a victimized society we live in ... sad but true I guess

yup its always true guys cannot be trusted.. (o:

i am sure there are ppl like me victimized by so "portrayed naive" of the east.

hey indi.... what happened? u let me down bro....

I thought astitwa team were some what good. Now after reading the story i found they are just F*CKING CRAP. The story about YASMI ( from sikkim ) is nobody but rashmi herself. U f*cking rashmi keep it up ur prostitue profession but stop creating false story to show urself clean . Dont c urself clean by comparing other dirty person. U r dirty and always dirty.

Wt is tht bloody ashitwa teams no...i need to call them bastard. They have make dissabled their suggestion link because of fear. Loosers.

This does not only apply to guys, I have seen girls do that too. One of my classmates went to Nepal and married a girl from Nepal. He brought her to the USA and after a year a so once she got her green card she ran off with another guy she met here.

It is true that parents do tend to fantasize about their daughters getting married to green card holders but the way "astistwa team" has presented the article is very unprofessional and lacks proper credentials. I do not think that people should be judgemental regarding this issue. Putting forward mere one or two two stories of unsuccessful marriages out of hundreds and thousands is just lame.

Reminds me of this hindi movie called "JISM" where a guy sues a girl for sexual assault. In our society, it is more of the norm that a girl is being made a victim of, but in today's day's and age, we need to rise from sexual discrimination and work on issues together more than provide obstacles along the way of working together.

Let's not lose track of the fact that there are two sides of the coin.

the article seems a little exaggerated..but it's no exaggeration that men in the US (these days women have followed suit) rush to find a suitable partner back home.

Manab, it is not the 'greediness' of families that urges them to get their daughters marry away with a man living so far. If you were living in Nepal, you'd probably realize- future in Nepal is bleak, and offers little for enthusiastic educated lots. specially, if one belongs to low middle class and your son/daughter is opting for bigger challenges in life, what do parents do? its not their fault. and conventional thinking as theirs still is, parents feel that relationship will fine tune itself after marriage...

Yo ketiharu lai ke bhako achel, Astitwa team ko article dekhe ki criticism lyayi halnu parcha? Do you think you are that much educated just by stepping foot on some foreign soil?

In another thread also, there was an interview with a prostitute and lots of uneducated criticisms. Do you know you have sussed out the objective of that particular NGO in the first place? Their objective may be to just create social awareness or to encourage the govenrment to legalize prostitution and so on and so on. They may or may not be following their stipulated objective through their articles, we dont know that just by reading one article in the internet. Why do you have to comment about their story-writing capability there?

By the way, I did not know that prostitution had advanced to this level in Nepal now. Someone, obviously with a very high opinion about himself/herself was saying ' whats so new? Everyone knows about it'. Excuse me!

nauseating !!!

hana ma bihe garna nepal jane belama ke ke jati post garera nepal ka keti haru le padhe bhane malai garo pardaina. bichara ma 30 naghisake ajhai virgin chhu.aru ko pani sochnu paryo

There may be such issues but the way asstitwa team is presenting its pure layman way. They are misusing the media. The article shows every man in us do the same thing ( double marrige). Half knowledge is dangerous bhaneko tehi ho.

when i was in college, my chinese teaching assistant heard me talk about nepal and enthusiastically asked me, " Are you napoleon?" ....... i said no. if she had said nepalean, i might have said yes.

ho yar nepalese ko satta nepalean rakheko bhaya dami hunthyo hola hai ?

Get contact number for vigin girls in Kathmandu (marrige is not a problem):

www.vigingirls.co.np

what I really understand about girls is why the heck are they trying get something called " security" which is something that doesnt exist at all.

The worse of all, why the heck do they try to get it from someone else by getting married. Cant they get it by themselves if they really belive that such a thing called "security" exists.

A very interesting article indeed. But I cannot help but comment on the fact that the article can be looked at with two different perspectives. If this article was written to create awareness among the blind people who think that the only way of having a good future is by marrying off their daughters to men in the foriegn land; then I give my thumbs up to the Astitva team. I know for a fact that a lot of men go to Nepal and get married to the girls there due to the force by their parents. Obviously a wrong reason! The feelings dont exist, and things might get pretty bad. And we also have to see that the style of living in the US might come as a shock to the people in Nepal, that can be overcome though.

But, I think I have to raise a finger to the fact that the way they have presented the article does not do justice to all the men who are in the foriegn land. The article sort of presents the view that all men in the foriegn land are characterless, two timing cheaters. The message is not clear, I mean instead of saying that marrying off your daughter in the foriegn land has negative effects I think the article should have adviced people to do a thorough background check on the guy before tying the band.

Things such as multiple marriages and bad habits can be tracked down in an instant. We DO live on a nosey society that keeps track of all the moves we make. And also, the girl should have a 100% say in the decision.

hmm... Grading huh? I would prolly give t hem a C-. I agree that the Astitva team should seriously think of hiring an editor. I mean it is just not any of us giving our views on certain issues. It is a formal NGO organization trying to create awareness, and they should at least look at the grammatican mistakes that they make. Also at many instances, the point they are trying to prove is not so clear. An important thing about writing an article is to have some writing skills. If we did not need any of those every X-Y and Z would be an author, journalist and so on.

Not trying to be rude. Only presenting my views :).

What said Rhythm covers the astitwa article in brief. But mine grading would be F because the presentation is very very poor. It seems the author is trying to show his/her jealousy over ameican-nepalese instead of the characters of the story. And the story has a vague message. Author is not sure what he/she wants to present.