Ekadesh ma eauta keta n keti thiyo.They used to meet each others on roads n used to c each other.Slowly they started with HI n HELLO.And as time passed on they started to talk on phone.And khai kasari ho kasari they boy started to love that gal.He loved her very much n used to talk with her on phone.And on valentines day he proposed that gal.That gal also accepted his proposal at once.They were very much happy with each other.They used to talk abt their future and used to be happy.The guy n gal both were students.They used to talk in bachelors level.{the guy was bit 1yr senior in class}.Bistarai bistarai tini hau ko love story ko barema dherai le thaha paye.Even their parents knew abt it.But they gave damn care coz they were just made for each other.And the time passed on but the guy failed his exams and that gal passed.Now that gal went to masters level and that guy was still in bachelors level.And that gal went to another city (ktm) for her further study.And that guy was still in his hometown.Now that guy used to feel insecured abt her.He used to call her very often n that gal also called him time by time.But slowly the gal started to get bg.She told that she was bg with her studies.And the guy started being depressed thinking that he might loose her.Sumtimes he used to scold her on phone for not giving time for him.And one day he scolded her because he was tired of hearing that she was bg in her studies.(but tyo moro keta le pani ta bujhnu parthyo ni hai..) and one day that gal told that she cant go one long with him.She wants to make her future bright and she told that he was not a perfect person.(as if he was a kind of failure in life).Now tell me who is wrong and who is rite?????this thing is killing me softly day by day.coz that guy cant still forget that gal.He tried to contact that gal so many times but still c doesnt respond him.why is it so.?????????ke tyo keti le aba tyo keta lai manparaudaina ta??????/ke ho yo......???plz help me to write more

best thing is dont try to force yourself to forget anything,,let time take care of things,,it works perfectly..

In my opinion I feel these two were not in love but they were highly infatuated with each other and felt strongly for one another and thought that feeling was nothing but love. once they were separated the girl realized that the guy was not the right man for her and tried to end it, but again the man wasn't ready to let go because it came from the girl, his ego played a role and still feels strongly for the girl, I think it is all over and the guy should move on or else he is going to feel sorry for himself and surely tragedy will strike then!!!

Dimple I don't think it's about ego. When your loved one starts ignoring you, you get hurt. It's natural for him to feel bad and get hurt by her action.

i think gals are more materialistic than guys are.n that should have been the case here....they think they are in love or PRETEND THEY ARE IN LOVE only when the guy is around to take her to movies, spend for her shopping. Once they are far...gals r more likely to forget them!!!!

Looks like the economoc model worked

see thread probability of breaking up !

hey kapeel,
I went through the same situaiton twice and everytime i thought i lost very precious thing but don't worry, "kali gaye gori auchha". It's hard at first but will forget in few months and another person, infact a better one, might step up in your life. It happened the same to me.... Now, i am so happy that I lost those ties coz, the relation that i enjoy today was infact much matured and loved.

I agree with dimple quite a bit, particularly on the part about infatuation being mistaken for love. Kapeel, you mentioned that the guy n girl were doing their undergrad -- so i am assuming they were probably in their late teens. At that age, young people often have strong emotions and a very black and white view of the world, especially regarding love. Love is a mutli-faceted feeling and often takes different forms at various times and as we age.

So, it appears to me that the girl realized that he is not the right person for her (for her own personal reasons that I don't wish to speculate on). It's easy for someone to say that the guy should also do the same because obviously he's not on the same wavelength as she is. And by that I'm not implying that she's superior to him for surpassing him academically. Rather, and perhaps to some degree because of the academic divide, the girl is on a different emotional level, with her own needs that the guy is unable to fulfill and vice versa. The onus is on the guy to come to terms to this reality -- in his own time. I know that at this point the guy feels rejected and it's tough to accept rejection, regardless of your sex. Talking to her about this issue is a good idea toward reaching some sort of resolution. It's not easy, I know, but worth a try.

Another, perhaps a harsher observation is this. You mentioned that the guy was 1 yr senior to the girl in the undergrad years. So for her to outpace him, he must've failed twice in a row. Now THAT is a cause for concern. What was happening in the guy's life to make him do so poorly? What was the nature of their relationship in this time-frame that may or may not have contributed to his failure? My instinctive reaction to this was that on some level, his poor academic performance was a reflection of his lack of committment to the relationship. If he "loved" her so much, he would've worked on his academic skills after his 1st brush with defeat. And it seems from your description, particularly in reference to her wanting to excel in studies and move ahead in life, that she values academic success. Perhaps she was unhappy with the guy's consecutive failures, given her personal standards for academic pursuits. So, another suggestion, if the guy "truly loves" her is for him to rise to the standards she prefers, if he wants her back. I know that it sounds very selfish but love doesn't mean that you have to abandon a pragmatic approach and dwell in the clouds.

Hope the guy, whoever he is, will be able to resolve this tragic story and have a happy ending!

Yes . it seems to be a tragic story on your terms. It seems to me as an immature LOVE or whatever they call it.

It is good that at least one could express how she felt to the other. If not , and you were apart .. and not knowing if the other one still has the affinity towards you , that would have been even worse..

SO, since the girl said that the guy didnt stand up to her expectations and so she quit the relationship that was made in so pre-mature part of her life : its time the guy has to move on. Learn from the mistakes, prove himself, if by any chance, meet the same girl or find another girl... that will do good to both of the ppl in context.

* SAME applies if we "interhange" the gender on the plot described. BOTH cannot stay together until they both respect each other, and accept the other whatever way he/she is.

wowwwwwwwwww ...simplegal .......that was a wonderful observation...i wish i have eyes like yours to specualte on things...but it looks like you have been through a lot in life....just a speculation and not encroach in ur private life either!!!!no offense please....that simply was a great speculation...is psychology your major!!!!just wondering....i am kind of naive on this issue of love and relationship kya!!!

it sounds like she may not lilke u like she used to before.

its a normal thing specially for young people like u guys in college.

happens all the time..

my advice for u is to move on and dont even think about being in love with her.. try and think about meeting other girls.

-lato

Haha....realli feel sorry .......but not for both of them but for us who read this story.......Its just waste of time.....There are more things in life to think about more than fooling around....Love someone doesnt mean u shud be always with ur gf or bf always........that guy needs attention not her love.....he feels insecure becos he doesnt have a faith on her ..... Love is all about understanding each other and have a faith in each other......and yeah why that guy cant go to her place and try to know what the problem is......and yeah Focus on something good more than worrying about what will happen next......that gal realise the truth...but guy still dont want to know the truth......GROW ....Be Man....Dont Cry...

TSHETEN SHERPA-i went there .and what does grow up means.does grown up person have no feelings????and if u r not intersted then kick urself out of this thread.There are lots of other threads such as NAS for u.I think u wud enjoy it.
DIMPLE- how can u say that it was simply infatuation??coz that guy can still not forget her.
SIMPLEGAL- u really sound a bit SELFISH.

thanks for ur interaction n views

DUKE1 - hahaha!! "tetro barsa sangai base pacchhi..Kukur po pani Maya lagchha !" - that just made my day! :D

kapeel - why don't you prove that she is wrong then? and that he is not a failure in life after all!! :) good luck!! :D

nails u r rite........duke le balla thikka ko jawab payo

kapeel watch some more hindi movies and u'll be just fine. Just act like u r an actor and hope she'll come back cryin' , runnin' into your arms. just make sure u have to welcome her with your arms wide open. If that doesn't help, go to her singing and dancing. remember u r an actor !!!!!!. way to go, dude.

not a bad idea "sadbuttrue".I guess everyone thinks themself as an actor(hero).dun u????

Thanks for all urs views n comments.some said that it was just an infatuation and some told that it was an immature love story.some ppls like RATOBHALEY,YOUNGPRINCE ,JUNKYFUNKY le chai mero kura bujhyo jasto lagyo.But still gals i dun find them that much satisfying.sayad keti bhako le keti ko side leko hola.but its ok gals.
Now lets talk abt infatuation.That gal may be in infatuation and may have realized it after she was far from the guy but what abt the guy?????He loved her truly.I wonder why these gals r so matearilistic n ......(let it b).
That guy might have seen so many dreams with her.what abt it ????Any ways its life.N the show must go on.And i guess time heals everything.yeti bela eauta gana yaad ayo yar.."every rose has its thorn,every night has its dawn.."by police.
Je hosh yaha maile pako comments bata chai ek kura thaha bhayo.Keta ho dun trust gals.Keti haru le tyahi keta lai matra hercha jo sanga paisa n status cha.Natra bhane keta ho u r always in risk.Yo kura chai yaad rakhnu hai bro haru.
Some frens above said that we shud be capable n have good studies n good status for gal to be ours.But is this the true love that we get bcoz of our money n status???sab dhoka ho sathi ho.Love shud come from the core of heart.I wud like to give an example of some true loves.kasto lagcha bhannu hai keta ho.
Take an example of a parent n their son/daughter.Jati sukai naramro bhayepani,10 patak slc ma fail bhayepani amababu ko lagi tyo chora /chori pyaro huncha.N they dun weigh their love bcoz of his studies n looks.Thats what love is.Its natural n comes from the core of the heart of the parents.But look at these gal.They say that a guy shud be capable (frankly speaking tanna gaaath hunuparcha).And only they will be willing to love.
Sorry hai i just wrote my frustations here.c u yar aba tea khanu gaye ma chai.

kapeel bro u said that u want some help to write some more words, hahhaha bro words if u wanna play with words love bhole baba

thats my suggestion if u wants more words in ur brain hahhahah all the words running through ur brain running like train on the subway. Then they gonna create some sound, obviously train makes some noises. too much noises in ur brain problem bro problem

that means that gal is a constant noise in ur life 4get her man, in ur brain she is haunting u like, leopard hunts a bear in wild night. she is the word here, she got the right to choose.

where r u pplz lost?