Hello guys,
I know this is not the right place to express personal problems like the one I have been going through for a few months. I and my girlfriend broke up a few months back and I was the reason behind this. It has been months but I can't forget her and this is ruining my life. This has greatly affected my personal, professional and educational life. A few days back she texted me and wished me a happy bhai tika. Does it mean she is changing her mind to come back to me? I know it's not good idea to text her or call her. But I still have strong feelings for her. How can I let her know that I want her back without making any contacts with her?
Whenever I talk to another girl, she comes into my head which makes me stop talking to other girls. What would I do guys? Please throw some genuine opinions, they would be greatly appreciated.

Pharsi, it's really hard to answer your questions not knowing the whole situation.

"She simply said half/half. After I came back here, I again asked her what fractions of your love you offer to me, she said 50%.Was this enough for a break up or was just my mentality that she was using me to get in the us? "

Honestly, I don't think that reason was good to break up with her. It sounds like you didn't give her space. If she was seeing another guy behind your back, that would be a different story. But she was just hanging out with her friends?

It sounds like you won't be at ease unless you talk to her once. It sounds like you really feel you wronged her and you want to hear that she forgives you. You said she texted you a few days ago. Perhaps she will talk to you if you text back.

But again, these are all speculations based on your comments. I could be totally wrong.

MlnNpl,
I agree with you that the reason was not good to break up. My point was why would I be someone's 50% ? If she didn't have to meet me, she could have said that she didn't want to spend time with me. We would talk over night and when we both planned for spending time together, she would cancel it at the last moment. She did it 3 times, not once which raised my concerns. It was like there was something wrong.
When I came back, I even filed for her visa ( fiancée petition). But things started getting worse when she was going out with her friend but she said she wasn't going anywhere. Later, she texted me and said she was coming home which was kinda lying even it was a minor. I still don't know why had to act suspicious because I never told her not to hang out with her friends.
I know she may have had her logics behind her activities, but to me it was like she was concealing something. All these factors drive me crazy and make me hurt her verbally which I feel guilty about. And want to apologize to her for all my insanity but don't want to bother her by texting or calling her.
I will be visiting Nepal again in mid January and planning on meeting her and genuinely apologize to her for the things that I have done to her. Would it be okay to do so or just let it go and move on?

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Buddy, just bail out. She is not worth it. You will thank me later. :)

You need to understand the fact, wishing the difference between tihar and Bhai tika. On the other hand it might be accidental text to you or I presume she is just fooling around. However, I can suggest you to make a approach toward her one more time. There is nothing wrong trying one more time.

sorry to hear that Dude, tara jane manche lai samjera kaam chaina.... we all know that, yaha ko life kasto huncha? yesto bela pani chodera jane sanga k expect garnu k ash le wait garchau.... move on buddy... tkcr

Yea, I know. I could be wrong in whole scenario, I may have misinterpreted her logics or answers or reacted unnecessarily or acted immaturely, but what I am saying or asking you guys is why do I feel guilty of hurting her (mostly texting her to ask for building trustable environment)and how can I get out of all the guilty feelings and enjoy my life.

I will be short and to the point -
She has a BF, and she met you becuase of her family pressure. Move on....keep some portion of your thank you to me just like 'lincoln'
BTW, that text was just a reminder and fun (most probabaly send by her BF) and she probabaly enjoyed it too.....

It could be the case and that's what exactly I told her. Again, we had an hour long conversation yesterday which she initiated. Now I am in a better situation and yes I have move on to Her cousin.

Glad to hear that Pharsi. Best wishes :)

MlnNpl,
Thanks! All I wanted was to apologize to her for saying that she had a bf, and move on.

i would say move on ... couple of months back, i was introduced to my mothers friends daughter... every time i tried to talk to her she always acted busy ... one question she always asked me was why have i not filed for citizenship yet... her mom always pressed that issue on me.... citizen citizen... she only talked when she wanted to .... if i was seeing her then she would have found out what kind of person i was .... since i was not .. i was upfront and honest about what kind of person i was ,, what i liked and what i did not like .... i don't make a lot of money by i do make decent amount of money ... then suddenly one day her mom told me that she was not interested ..... which was not the case when i met her ... she talked about how interested she was in getting to know me and all that bullshit ... later on i found out that she had applied for TPS and was approved and her approval notice came right at moment when she said NO.. this was the first time i realized how something could make you so sad while at the same time make u equally happy... all that woman wanted from me was to maintain her status to say in US ... she can say what she wants and come up with a million excuses ... it will not make a difference to me ... if that person is reading this you will probably know it... and by the way if you are reading this.... the banana i bought from walmart is probably bigger than you are #TrashTalk

at the end all i will say to you is .... move on ... there are people who care about you and wish you well in life... the rest can F*** off... agree or not?

"plenty of fish in the sea"

Nepali chicks are stuck up, don't understand why this is the case. I'm way too good looking for them. I prefer spanish hotties.

Newton123,
I totally agree with you on this. I became too honest with her and made every moves genuinely because I wanted to marry her. I could have played the game pretty well, but I didn't. On the other hand, she tried to be smart with me, which I felt was not right. Yes, I have moved on and am feeling better without her in my life. I have spoken to her and discussed what went wrong and why. Now, I have nothing to feel guilty about.
Cp21,
Yes man, there are a lot but the one I want.

Too good looking n prefer spanish ? Think u dont kno diff btw cream and scum

She's not the one for you. Forgot her.

What a waste of time with this girl! She actually told me the truth. How can someone manage two relationships, can't imagine it??

Pharsi Jui,

Hahaahaha,, but nice cycle. I have been through all these phases mostly aggression. Agreed.