I am in trouble so I looked for many online sites to ask this question and found out sajha.com is the best place where i can get answers of my question. I am from brahmin community and my surname is Adhikari. I love a girl and she is brahmin as well, But usko mamaghar haru pani Adhikari haru hunu hudo raicha. Will this reason affect our marriage? I am from the eastern part of Nepal and she is from western part of Nepal. Please help me i really need help.

I'm hoping positive response from members of sajha.com.

What's your question? Will it affects your marriage in what way, you want to know ? Will it affect coz' your parents or extended family won't accept it or it will you by astronomically? Or affect health of your kids cause of similar genetics formations? What you wanna know about?

i want to know everything about it. Whether our parents are going to accept it or not, and astronomically as well.

Alright. Do this.

Take a picture of your temple and both palms and post those on here. I might be able to do something.

Kumai baonko niyam anusar chai eautai jaat ta parai jaos 7 taha bata nata napareko hunu parcha shadey garna but that is niyam

Well I am gonna try to answer to best of my knowledge. Like intelligent guy said hindu religion anusaar 7 pusta samma bihewaari chaldaina. But as far as usko mamaghar being Adhikari, that doesn't mean you are by any means related. If you are than I think you can understand why it might be considered wrong. Now see kati le eutai gotra bhaye ni bihe hundaina bhancha tara that rule differs from community to community in Nepal. After all, eutai chad manaune ra puja garne tarika nai nepal ko farak farak part ma farak nai cha. So is the rules regarding marriage.

As far as talking to your parents, thats all on you. You are the one who is gonna have to spend your life
Well I don't know if this helps, good luck.

Dude, just ask your parents if they have problem or not for parents view. Consult guru for astrological aspect and after you figure out how close you both are in anscestory there are plenty of documents for study.

There is no way to figure this out without knowing how close you are in ancestry. And ur parents felling, you have to ask them directly.

You cannot marry your own 'gotra' and 'saho-gotri' , ask her for gotra, and ask your parent for saho-gotra cast. Your cast and girl's mama with same gotra is also not accepted.

If you love her and if she loves you, fuck that gotra, all those gotra and cast are made by our parents. Interesting thing, after you married, wife's gotra will be changed re, is not that dummy,If you guys are happy thats all we sajha friends need.

Our Vedic pundits understood genetics in depth and they made rituals that increases the 'gene pool' of the population and hence increase the survival rate of the population.

Small populations are generally at a greater risk of extinction than large populations. They are subject to rapid declines in numbers for three main reasons:

1) loss of genetic variability and related problems of inbreeding and genetic drift
2) demographic fluctuations due to random variations in birth and death rate
3) environmental fluctuations due to variation in predation, competition, disease and food supply; and natural catastrophes that occur at irregular intervals, such as fires, floods, volcanic eruptions, storms and droughts. (Source: http://faculty.plattsburgh.edu/thomas.wolosz/smallpopulations.htm)

Marrying a girl from same gotra means it will not help in increasing the genetic variability. A population with small gene pool is always at higher risk of extinction because an epidemic can hit anytime. So, it's better to increase the gene pool by marrying from different gotra. Different gotra means different genetic makeup.

Not accepted

Hello Dude, it was the same issue with my friend as well. He wears Janai and worships daily. He married to the Adhikari girl happily and her cousins were Adhikari too. It happens..Take it easy. Put the faith on your relationship not on your cast type. Haven't you watched Lageraho Munna bhai? If you believe in palmist and astrology; then I don't have to say anything. Introduce her to your family. The more you speak about her in your family; the more they will appreciate her easily.

i heared something like her brother can marry adhikari but she cant marry adhikari. Is that true??

Our Vedic pundits understood genetics in depth and they made rituals that increases the 'gene pool' of the population and hence increase the survival rate of the population. yeah if you know mathematics good and understand the power of 2 equation, veda fails badly, yet you rant veda is the answer to everything. haha stupid argument to initiate. hindu religion anusaar 7 pusta samma bihewaari chaldainaing .

MutherTucker, you still talk about jaat in 21st century?? Don't you have little brain and balls to convince your parents for right thing?? I am also bahun, but I don't consider myself bahun as the way my parents would like me to be. [Disallowed String for - use not allowed] padheka khaat haru lai k bhannu?? However, if you are talking about genetics, then definitely your kids are going to be inbreds.

i agree with hydrogen sulphide, jaat hat ko jura garchas sala, gayera tharuni ya limbuni ya thakali bihe garna

No he can't.

Her brother can marry adhikari too, and she can marry adhikari too. Mama ghar teera ko jaat mandainan. so dont worry about what will people or parents think. as others pointed ajabholi jaat ko ta koorai garnu hunna, tehi pani samaj ma k bhanlan bhanne ho bhane, you dont have problem. Go ahead and marry her.