I am just throwing it out there coz its killing me to keep this to myself...as I am really not sure wat to do next. Here is the story...my bf whom I had been dating for almost three and a half years proposed last night and I didnt say 'yes' or 'no'. I dont know what to think of it now. Did I scare him off by my non-response? Well, I said..ask me again, later. What was I thinking? GRRR. He said he will ask again, for sure and that he loved me and he went back to his place.

The thing is I always wanted to marry him and we both had started making plans for it, so the proposal didnt come out of the blue..It was expected and he knew that I would say 'yes' too. Still...when the moment came, I think I messed up big time. I know he will ask again and that not my worry, I am just wondering you guys think I let him down. I talked to one of my guy friends and he said that a guy would never want to hear 'ask later' no matter how committed we are. That got me wondering.

He is not a Nepali and its been a big issue for my family and his. They have practically given up and left it up to us to decide where we want to go from here. So we decided we will stick with each other and hope that the family comes around. My family is visiting me right now and had couple of relatives too. My bf was invited over for dinner and things was all well until the details of the wedding came up. He said he will do everything according to Nepali rituals but then the conversation blew out of proportions. No bad words exchanged...but it was very heated, my bf keeping quiet most of the time. After couple of hours of 'go ahead marry him, no dont marry him, he is not a nepali, i hope you are happy, how can you leave us? etc etc' he asked me to step out of the house for a minute. I did...and he got down to one knee and asked me to marry him. I was already in tears for last two hours or so....and I told him that I was just in a state to accept a proposal at this minute. I also said that there is no doubt about me saying a yes, I just thought we could do it when I was in a good emotional state. He agreed and left after saying bye to everyone. Thats the Ramayan version of my life.

So, you think I shouldnt have responded that way? What would it do a guy's ego? Or was the reaction appropriate given the circumstances? I talked to him today and he seemed happy....but guys and their feelings have always been a mystery to me.

Help me clear out my head!!

Thanks for everyone who have given their two cents...My boyfriend proposed again last night and this time i said a big YESSSS :-)
Parents are still uncomfortable with the news but I know they will turn around soon.

Oh...and the ring is absolutely breathtaking...very beautiful. :-D

congratulation!!! I hope I will find a girl like you someday..re ke

Lol Bhalu

chadi boston gal ma pani handsome chu..aachai bhalu bhaneko hera ta..

haha!!!!!!

waht a sad ending of this thread..........

Well boston girl if you suffer in ur life in the future plz don't send any more thread on those stuffs....... alright.............

I know you'll have problem in ur life...... for sure........ try to solve it urself.... coz we ain't gonna help you
anyways......... congratulation for getting to have a new step in ur life.. that's the most important one...... marriage........ It ain't a joke ......... rite.........

-Rockend

Congratulations!! Where’s the party tonight, again?? :D Good luck to you and yours for the 'official' start of a new life together. May the "ring" set the spirits free!!

.he asked you again without getting the consent of your parents... what the hell is he doing and what are you doing... i hope you guys know what you are doing... and that just sucks... i wonder... but, i hope you're all happy...

if you had said bigg yessssss in the first place then you wouldn't have to cry and shit.. people here wouldbn't have to spend their bored time giving you counselling etc.. you sound like you enjoy being a drama queen...
i thought you were a reasonable person who's having to make a tough decision given the parents and your complicated love life. however, you were just an emotional and wasted everyone's time.
.. boring...

I think, to love someone and to love and live with someone for all of ur life could be two different things. Person could change after living together (or after getting married). It's really hard to live 2 lives together. I dated my college for 3 years and she got married with somebody else. I felt so bad that I went through very bad times but now I think and look back those days and I would say that I did the right thing by not getting married with her. We loved eachother very much and still we could easily sacrifice our everything for eachothers happiness but we had so many uncommen things that would come out and could make big things after getting married. Listen to your heart but make decesion from your brain.

I am happy with this news.. and Hope mine also will end this way...

Phatte - muaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh!! i totally agree with you, you said everything there need to be said!! :D
:)
but still,
bostongirl - congrats! :)