she's 19, i'm 27. no.. we are not seeing each other... i know her and she knows me too ..damn... she calls me "dai"!!
i dont know what to do.. no one has ever made me feel they way this girl does...i just cant get her out of my mind... and i dont want to ... just dont know what to do..
she' so innocent and vuneravle and lovable and everything nice and sooothing..and i feel i am not good enough for me... not that i feel i am bad or something but i guess its the age that is making me keep myself away from her...
its been about 7-8 months that i was first introduced to hert.... it wasn't love at first sight....... it's so easty to love her but it took time... and now nothing ever ever ever going to change it... i kind of avoided her for a few months...beacuse i thought it's never going to work out for the two of us..but it doesn't seem to work..distance only made my heart grow fonder...and last week when i saw her and talked the usual talk .. hi.. how;re you? loong time no see.....i haven't been able to eat sleep think . and now i know i have to do something about this... i really really have to....... she probably does;nt have the slightest of idea about my feelings..
i need help guys.. what do you think i shoufl do.. is 8 years actually almost 9 years a lot of difference in age?? am i wrong?? what do you tyhink i should do.. i mean i dont want to get iin her way.. she's got 3.5 more years befire she graduates... life sucks... help me out!!!!!

Exactly u_day!!!

GET A REALITY CHECK PEOPLE!!!

u aint romeo nor is she juliet...and life aint bollywood or a hollywood movie....gezzz

on satya yug/ kali yug- Ram aged 16 married Sita when she was 7. Parvati was also very young when she got married to the angry old Shiva. So, it is not kali yug to be romantically involved with someone 8 years younger than you.

And as for all the doctors of reality- check the age difference of your grandparents and in some case your parents. Also, these hollywood bollywood people are also real and their marriage is also real. So, mainhoonna-"khamosh kyun ho jo bhi kahenna hai kaho; dil chahe jitna pyaar utna mangalo". Go for it.

u_day...
fbi can not do shit if both are above 18.

[ never b involved with anybody under 18 if u r above 20+ ]

In us,

if both under 18 then MAXIMUM age difference CAN ONLY be of 2 years otherwise one wud b in problem. meaning guy[17] and girl [15] okey. girl [14], guy [12] okey... (o:

ptgyall1 they are all hollywood actors, they don't count as real life example

--WAH? You mean they don't have a real life??!?

The heart says: age doesn't matter, love conquers all, it may be worth a shot, what's the harm in trying - the worst thing she can say is no, and the sun will still rise the next day and you will probably be back on Sajha soon after chatting with other girls and falling in love all over again :)

The head says: At 60 age may not matter but in your teens and twenties chances are it does. It's better to get hurt now when the stakes are lower than lets say 3 years from now, where she may wake up one day and think what am I doing with someone so much older. If you are not looking into anything long term, it's worth a shot but if you have any thoughts about a long term relationship then you might want to think about how to manage all the issues that could arise as a result of that age difference.

So who wins, the head or the heart? I say go for the heart - ask her out and if she accepts find out for yourself if this what you really want. Often times, after you get to know a person failry well, they turn out not to be what you thought they were. But you'll never know till you take the first step. No risk no reward! :)

Good luck !

DISCLAIMER: Don't sue me or come after me if any of this lands you in wretched misery :) LOL

what is age gotto do with love ????// dudes i thought we were not racist.....the person i am seeing is 19 ( a boy) and i am 26.(a girl)..now is this a crisis..or craze..get life ppl..age no bar..caste no bar..color no bar..

too young and too old

highfly- i said i LIKE him. i didnt say he was my boyfriend.he doesnt even know. i was just saying that to let others know that girls like guys who r alot older then them too so maybe that girl likes mainhoonna too. and i cannot call him by name even my brother calls him dai so dont put words into other people's mouth.

8 diff???
go for it
she ain't no baby,
may be she knows more than you think about your feelings...
go for it gently, if she says Yes throw us a party, if she says No two things are possible, either she'll think over it if she has never thought about this relation and may get attracted after knowing your side, or her No may mean actual No, but in any case, you will be satisfied that you did what u could.
Otherwise u'd be wondering for ur whole life...what if... what if i had asked her....

GO FOR IT MAN! why wait? and even if she says NO you have nothing to lose. you will probably get depressed for a week then get over it! again, nothin to lose! GO GO GO GO GO! age ? fuk age!!

"mooooooooooooooo" meeeeeaaaaaaaooooooooooowwwwwwww

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In the period of less than 12 hours, this thread was visited around 1450 times and 70 entries.
But the problem of Mainhoona and mine is in the same platform where it was previously.
It has increased my tension rather than decrease.
It is 10:30 PM and I am still thinking abt this things. I don't know how far I will move with this headache.
Oh god............ help me !

Dude,
There is three possibilities for your problem if you tell her:-

First is
1. You might tell her and she can be amazed and probably say that she will think about it. And hopefully you guys will be together.

Second is

2. She calls you DAI, so maybe she really think you as a DAI. And when you tell her about your love. She might throw a Fit and she will be like "What I call you Brother and you act like a arse." That's it I am not going to talk to you ever again.

Last but not the Least
3. Call her boyfriend or real brother and bit the crap out of you, till you remember to call her sister again.

So what really happened---update us please.

Serious stuff going on here eh? maihoonna let her hear what you feel about her..Keeping your feelings within yourself will do nothing but harm..you have already took a step forward in loving her...why don't you take an action and clear your dubius mind....you think age does matter..? If you do love her intensely then why the hesitation...Go for it...:D

Good Luck....

My suggestion is go and get married to her if she needs your companionship, age doesn't matter. I don't see any problem between 19 and 27 yrs, but the perfect age of getting married. in my opinion, guys must be older than girls, there are many reasons: first, good relationship because mature guys can handle their wives very well; second, guys about 8or9 yrs older than girls can have strong socioeconomic condition and have developed the ethnocentrism as well; third, after having pregnancy girls look like women, so the couples seem as perfect match. Guys shouldn't shy-away to go with their wives because wives won't look like much ugly or old-faced. Once girls become over 30, their appearance could match with over 45 yrs old guys.

he he
thaha लाई थाहा छ ;-)

Mainhoona bro.........go for her....( be brave and honest, tell her everything..............tara not like straight way...........i hope u r smooth talker with gal like me.....re kya...This is what i did, i told her everything...........now the gal i love and we are good frens coz we realize that it is gonna bring more pain), now i am light hearted and still go to her bar and drink.................so go for it............call her and ask her what she is doing? arrange the meeting.........dont call it date, you might scare her....then make a way to dinner............open urself slowly,
I know your feeling dude, age is not the matter, infact most of the young gals they like older guys, why? coz they give them more security andthey are more matured and loveable. They know mature guy will love more than their age....so dont hesitate..she is calling u dai , may be formality u know nepali culture............dont take it wrong......just check it saying( kati dai bhaneko, teti ko budo jasto laagcha........then see the reaction on her face ..............u will answer crystal as clear then u can think to move ahead or step back.............( jab pyaar kare kohi naah umro ka seeema ho na jaanma ko baandan). as your nick act to her like Maine ho naa


GO FOR HER DUDE, U DONT KNOW............BRO AMERICA MA DEKHE KO CHAU TA 32 BARSA PUGEKO BUDO HARU LE 22 RA 23 BARSA KO KTE NEPAL BATA ARRANGE BEHE GAREKO.............WHY NOT? EVEN I HAD A OFFER TO GET MARRRIED TO 18 AND I AM 26........SAMAJ LE MAANCHA BHANE WHY BIG DEAL......

YAHA DHERAI HAALA GARNE , TIMI LAI FBI BHANE HARU NAI HUCNA UNDERAGE SANGA SEX GARNE HARU.......( ABA CHURA LIYE HAI TUM NE , AAKHO SE KAAJAL KE TARA , PHOOLO SE KHUSBU KE TTARA , KE KYA KIYA TUM NE BHANDAI...........JAU, BRO I KNOW U FEEL LIKE TALKING TO WIND, U SING YOURSELF AND U CANT SLEEP , U SEE HER EVERYWHERE, USKO SABAI MAANPARCHA HAINA, THAT MEANS U ARE IN LOVE AND IT WASNOT FIRST SITE, CAME GRADUALLY............GO GO GOG GOG GO SERGENT

THUMPS UP

Hey mainhoonna, she is calling u dai. u know dai means brother and she is 19 andg u r 29 uffffffff . how can u even think like that way.
i m sure u r not trying to be like Micheal Jackson. just kidding

anyway good luck and i m praying for u kya

thankx everyone for taking time out and offering your much needed suggestions... taxen,ramri,jptgirl,reeyas82,zalimsingh,dyaamn,tero_dai,captainji,tweet,neupane,keho,moneyminded,thaha... you guys have surely encouraged me... i know i am going to express myself infront of her someday...i'm preparing myself for that "special day"....
i dont want to get married to her right away as thaha suggested me to do.. she;s so young.. i can wait for her........ as many years as she wants me to wwait........i dont want to take away the wings of this cute little girl ...... i want to give her all the happiness..all the love.. everything she wants.... everything that i can give her.. in the world and just set her free to fly in the sky........... damn... .. i love her!!!!!!
is she does not have any feelings for me ..... still i will continue to love her.....i am not very scared of rejection anymore .... because atleast i will have the satistfaction that i did give it a try..i dont want to wake up 5 years from now.. and say... "i should have tried..". thankx once again everyone...... you guys @sajha rock!!!

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Hehe Mainhoonna,
You have gathered courage, but me......... poor guy............still in the same confusion...Oopsssssssssss