I am very serious here. I am not faking or making anything. I have been in relationship with a nice nepali girl for long time. Its been more than couple of years. we were totally devoted and committed to each other. we both are educated and mature. we even talked with our parents about each other and they were also very happy for both of us as we are from same caste too.

I will not write here how much i loved her and still do and what i did for her and everything. To make this story short, I just want to say this, i always gave her love, respected her, encouraged her, treated her as my best friend, my girl friend and my wife. we have spend time together as well, meaning cooking, grocery shopping, going out, washing dishes, and so many things.

I believe that she also loved me a lot. she took teej ko brata for me, prayed for my success, asked me to meet her parents and asked me to talk about marriage and i did that as well. Everythign was so perfect in my life.

My wonderful life suddenly changed few months ago when I learnt that my beloved girl is going out with some other guy. she cheated me. When i found out about this, i requested her to come back and asked her why she did this to me. she had no answer for that and she jsut tried to get away from me. since i had known her family and frined well, I called them to know if they know about anything related to this. Noone knew at that time. but irony is, she thought that i told everyone that she is cheating on me and dating some guy, but that was not the case. i never told anyone about that at that time. why would i do that when i treated her as my wife. This incident might have irritated her and she became closer with other guy and had physical relationship as well. I guess she did not think about anything at that time. she did not think about consequences.

After I knew she is cheating on me, i could not control myself and because of this I screwed up my semester. I screwed up so badly that I could not get over with this. That thing completely changed my career and I am no where now. I am struggling just to save my status. I am not explaining everything here but i went through a lot because of this. I am totally depressed and thought about so many bad things. Many bad things started to came in my mind.

I tried to forget her but could not do so. I still love her very much and I want her back. she knows this very well. we still talk to each other. Now she is saying that she just want to be friend with me and she does nt want to talk about love and marriage now. she does nt deny that she still love me and care about me. I dont know if she gonna come back to me or not. she has accepted her fault and she knows that she destroyed my life while whatever she is doing now is because of me. I did so much for her and she knows this.
she sometime says, she broke the promise she has given to me and slept with someone else so she can not come back to me. But i told her that please forget about that and just come back to me. I told her that do not compare my love and respect and our long relationship with one sex. I also want to say you one thing that we too slept together as well. For me, I really love her and want her back but i dont know what she is thinking. I still dont understand that is it because of guiltyness that she is hesitating to come back because she cheated on me or she really wants to go away from me. if she wants to go away from me, why she is still talking to me? I told her that i can not be friend with her. I told her that I can either be her husband/bf or no one. i can forgive her if she come back to me and say sorry but if she tries to be just friend with me, then i will say she used me and threw in trash.

I am expecting some comments from girls/women here. is it possible for a girl to come back after all this. I mean she had a good relationship with a nice guy and she cheated him even though he loved her so much and later he found out about this. she also slept with new guy. however the pld guy ( me) still wants her and love her as much as he used to. she knows that he loves her a lot. This is really killing me and i am really depressed. I want her back. I dont know how it gonna happen but i want this to happen. what should I do now?

"dont understand why it is so hard for her to tell me I dont love you anymore, i have lost interest on you, i am over with you and so on. why she still calls me and try to show some sympathy? why she tries to show me that she cares for me. "


Go back and read dude.I already answered this for u. U wont understand because ur blindly in love. U want to hear what ur currupt mind wants to hear. There is no cure for u. Time will helf u forget about her. May be in 5 years u will get over her. U love her so much that even if u find another person rt away, u will keep comparing the new gurl to ur old Bi&ch and it will be never the same to ya. U will destroy the new gurls emotions too. Go on isolation, disappear, change college, Get a new I 20...i dont know how else ppl here in sajha can help u. There is no cure for u. U JUST DONT WANT TO BELIEVE WHAT UR FRIENDS HAVE TO SAY.

"why it is so hard for her to tell me I dont love you anymore,"

ITS NOT HARD, SHE DOESN'T WANT TO. SHE THINKS THAT IS USELESS QUESTION TO BE ANSWERED AFTER SHE HAS GIVEN YOU BIG BLOW IN YOUR FACE.GET IT!

"I dont know now if she ever loved me or not"
DO YOU STILL HAVE DOUBTS THAT SHE LOVED YOU???AFTER ALL THESE THINGS.

"she just used me because i have done a lot for her"
YOU GOT THAT RIGHT DUDE!!YOU HAVE BEEN USED
"well we respect other's wife and girlfriend, dont we? now what i hear is this guy is saying her like you just used me"
THAT BASTARD IS GOOD EXAMPLE OF SOMEONE WHO RESPECTS SOMEONE ELSE'S GIRLFRIEND WHAT DO YOU THINK??hAHAH..WHO USED WHOM??WHO GOT USED???


Dude..sorry for being bit harsh on you.i know its hard but this is good advice all other have given you too.If you can don't hate her..hate means you will remember her as an enemy..Don't love her..Just forget her completely ..time is big healer..tring going out meeting new girl..you will forget.You are young ..life is not worthless wasting thinking about the biitch..Have fun..

You've got to get yourself together
You've got stuck in a moment
And you can't get out of it
Don't say that later will be better
Now you're stuck in a moment
And you can't get out of it

And if the night runs over
And if the day won't last
And if your way should falter
Along this stony pass

It's just a moment
This time will pass

sidster, you are again right. it will take me a long time to forget her. you are also right that i can not fall for any other girl at this time. Sometimes I feel like what will happen if I could not get this girl and marry someone else and could not give her enough love that she deserves. In that way, like you said, i would destroy her emotion and life as well. I am trying to change college.

Good first step..but don't run away ..be a Man face it!!how about this a new GF ??and you can randomly meet somewhere with your new GF..not that you care but it shows that you said FUC% u biitch!!

" and i dont know why a guy can do this to someone else's girlfriend"


Not to sound to harsh, but this was just too funny. Listen dude, u must be one of those sojha sajha nepali type, if u know what i mean. Dont blame the dude, blame ur gurl. First of all ppl need to understand that guys dont make any advance to a women unless they get some signs. Its one thing that guys could have less morals than gurls but they would never make a move to hit on someoneles's gurl unless she throws some signs in for him to make moves. He did it cos she gave it to him. Simple as that.

As a man u need to be very careful, especially if u have a beautiful woman, lets see ur in a party with ur woman and she leaves u for a sec, then u need to observe her from distance, always know where ur women is at and what is she doing, in a way that she or others wouldnt notice u noticing that. Find out who seem to have more interested in ur women and find out what motives she has with ur woman. Remember there is no such thing as true friendship between opposite sex. The "attraction" always comes into play betn opposite sex friendship. So Question those friendships. Be jealous of her friends in a healthy way. Let her know that ur jealous of such relations.

Women are like cows. They will give u milk, be loving and humble., In return u give them protection, love, food, care, affection and such but she always lures for " damlo chutayera baali khana" he he....not a good metaphore but hope u get the point. U should try to know what ur women is up to all the time. Although it nearly impossible to find out what they are up to all the time but atleast we need to try.

hahahahha.. Sid..u seem to be pro...hahahaah..watch ur girl in a way that no body notices that you are noticing ..hahahah...funny..

Hard to give suggestion coz I am also in that type of situation long time back but I am sure if somebody betrayed pure love for somthing other like money ,career or ...then they will regreat badly later but this is life u need to go through ..u didn't do any mistake so don't blame

I never reignited old flame(s).

Everytime I fall in love with a new girl..it feels like I'm falling in love for the first time....and I tend to give it from my heart....and the whole thing goes again with a new one....

I am pro ImI. Thats why u loose the battle with me sometimes he he. Practice makes one perfect ...he he. Been there done that..he he

sidster, I really like your points. yes I am sida sada nepali keta. I mean i am smart but i dont do such things. Never did such thing and even my close friends dont do such thing. we have done flirtign with girls but not with someone else's girl. may be you are right, she made the first move. well actually i was so open minded and i always gave her so much freedom. she has lot of friends and sometime they asked her for lunch or movies. she always asked me if i can go for that or not, and i always told her that yes you can but remember your limit. even for this guy, she asked me permission to meet him and have lunch for the first time when they met. I always thought that we are in 21st century and she is also almost equally educated like me so why we can not treat every other girl like guys. I always thought boys and girls are equal and that is what i was taught from my parents as well. I guess i should have kept my eye open all the time about her moves. i am doing now but it is too late i guess.

hey number...it seems you are so stupid , so that your girl freind fool you...you even gave permission to go for a lunch with only a guy...dang...if it is in group of friends, then it is okay...but going out for lunch with a single guy when you have boyfreind and asking you permission seems that she is just using you because you seems to be to nice to her...
make up your mind and just say bye bye to her....

Ok My dear friend, I am here to give you some genuine advice so listen.

First things first, have a little bit of self respect. Seems like you are so attached to this girl that you need her by your side just to even define yourself. Look at yourself (literally) and think what your parents would think of you right now. Boy, they'd look at you and spit on your face for letting such a paltry matter get in your head. Man O man they'd be ashamed. The world population is what 6 billion? and nepalese population 30 million? and you're crying over one chic?

Now lets get to your brain. Scientifically speaking Brother, you're addicted. You're no different than a smoker craving for a smoke, Crackhead looking for some crack, fatty looking for some sugar or masturbater looking for another crank. But the good news I have for you today is that your choice to become happy or depressed lies squarely on YOU! Now listen to me carefully, this is the meat. Your brain is made up of millions of what you may call neurons that hold your entire memory. The reason I say the choice is yours is because when you think of something, you make that neuron's attachement stronger. Lets say you're a constant masturbater, the neurons attachment for masturbation might be larger than your genitle. And everytime you masturbate, you will make this neuron in your brain grow larger and stronger and more of a chance you will come back and masturbate. In order to eliminate this addiction, the masturbatier most weaken these neurons for masturbation. He/she can easily do so by just simply not thinking about masturbating and rather engaging the brain in other activities such as reading a book.

Just like in the case of masturbation, your brain has addiction to that honey of yours. So the neurons for you cheating honey is large and you support this by thinking more of her. Do you understand?? Its simple. Now in order to weaken these neurons you most try hard not to even think of her. The cells in your body crave for peptides generated by these honey's neurons firing.

Now what you must do is ask her once and for all whether she wants you have your babies or not. Not, give her the big sayonara and just focus on yourself. we are pretty much the first Nepali generation exercising dating and going out before marriage scene. We are traditionally designed to the just point fingers and our parents are supposed to go get it for us and we're supposed to get the groove on only after wedding. So if we want to join the western fest, we must learn to take the good with bad. We must evolve to take breakups not so personally. Give it a shot! On a good note, you will get to see and play with atleast one more Pwu-Tang in life.

All I can do at this time, after going through the comments, is sigh :)

Good luck, number, no matter what you decide to do.

Number,

I have a story for u. I was in a class with a newari gurl when i was 21. I was always horny and looking back then. The gurl was married to a GC holder man who was an chef in an indian resturant owned by whites. A decent high end resturant. The guy made about 3000.00 per month working 50 - 55 hrs per week. A decent financial position. Dude loved her very much. He made enough money for her to go to school. Dude paid her school expenses.

She met me in the class. I am very outspoken, witty, decent looking myself, i crack jokes everynow and then and i amused ppl who were around me. The gurl was attracted to men with such behaviours. She wanted to be my friend, started calling me for HW, started sitting by me in the class and started giving me hints on her attraction for me. I sensed that, cos i used to be one cunning mofo back then. I welcomed her advances, cheered her, flattered her, told her some lies about how competative and witty she was and she fell in love with me just like that. She started calling me her home when the husband was gone. And one of those days she slept with me.

She had filed GC with thru her man, i was on mere F1 status. But she was willing to leave all that for me. Her whole life she was dependent on that man and never thought of getting a job. But with me since i was broke all the time, she even talked about getting a job to support me, would u believe that? Later i said no to her, first i wasnt in love with her, second she wasnt worth hurting that hardworking dude and bad name for me among the nepalese society.

So the moral of the story is, u will never find out how much is enough to give ur woman. U can give her everything but she can still leave u for one thing that she lures for.

love is not blind...i don't think you actually love her. you have some kind of disorder.

hahaha..yes thank you for being pro me..hehe:)
see bro.i can twist words like that..hahahaha
and about battles ..are u really sure..i think you are dreamin..hahaha

been there done that..hmmm..i can't stop LAO imagining your one eye looking at your girl.another at bottle of beer..hehehe

This is how it has worked for me in the past so the circumstance never come like this number fellow..I ditch the girl first before the girl ditches me .This is what i have done in past.Yes, i admit i have been victim of such stupid girl's reaction one time in my life.I was sad and i could not understand what the fuc% she wanted..

Now i am smarter ..i study the psychology when i see the girl is trying to make smart move on me ..simple i make the first move.i ditch her.And she keeps wondering what the hell happened..hahaha.
cry ..all sort of stuff..one of the girl almost beat me ..hehehe..but you know what ..why did i leave her..she was lying to me ..she told me she was sick instead went to party with her friends..that was first step..these girls especially white college girls ..cannot really trust them ..you know:)

So Number dude set world record on number of girls you screw ..fuc% that biitch!!!she was one i guess..just a number get it!!!

ImI has revealed that he's a sick psycho...:D

Arite kids, i mean ImI and Sajhauser, this thread is not about u two hai...poor number is in trouble.

hahaha...i was expecting that from you sweetie..i am sick???hmmm.. you are really nice sajahuser and i really think you are nice person..wish i met someone like you before ..i was hurt by this girl...:)
well past is past and we need to move on..i already said there is NO LOVE..it is buisness ..Give and take..
I don't recommend that people go on screwing others innocent lives like that but you need to be extra careful .I wasn't wrong ditching a girls because you know why they would eventually would have beacause you can sense the relationship is just not working..if you understand what i mean.

Again i am sorry, if me story has offended any good souls out here.BUt i know guys are horny bastards here woould say hell ya!!!!and girls ..hell ya too..i will screw as many man i can ...works both ways..

If you find true love (which is not there ) but you think it is there and you found one you are lucky.


SID ..bastard don't go screwing other man's wife..hehehe:P

sajha user, i can not explain here how much i loved her and still do. if what i did to her is not love then i dont know what is love. i am a healthy person. are you psychiatrist by the way?