The currupted side of my mind ( and guys we all have that side ) was just wondering, when ppl have arrange marriages if they'd acutally make love in the first night. It would be weird wouldn't it, making love to someone who you barely know.

hmm..i found some definitions ke! :P

An arranged marriage is a marriage that is at some level arranged by someone other than those being married and is usually used to describe a marriage which involves the parents of the married couple to varying degrees:

In a traditional arranged marriage the parents choose the child's future spouse with little or no input from the child being taken as having final authority. If the child refuses the choice of the parents, the parents may choose another possible spouse or the child may be punished or disowned (or in rare cases, killed, accidentally in the heat of passion or intentionally with legal authority to do so).

In a modern arranged marriage, the parents choose several possible mates for the child, sometimes with the help of the child (who may indicate which photos/biographies he or she likes, for example). The parents will then arrange a meeting with the family of the prospective mate, and the two children will often have a short unsupervised meeting (an hour long walk around the neighborhood together, for example). The children will then eventually choose who they wish to marry (if anyone), although parents may exert varying degrees of pressure on the child to make a certain choice of which they must approve.

A modern arranged marriage with courtship is the same as above, except the children have a chance to get to know each other over a longer period of time via e-mail, phone, or multiple in-person meetings, before making a decision.

Finally, in an introduction only arranged marriage, the parents will introduce their child to a potential spouse (that they found through a personal recommendation or a website, et cetera). The parents may briefly talk to the parents of the prospective spouse. From that point on, it is up to the children to manage the relationship and make a choice based on whatever factors they want, love or otherwise. The parents may try to influence the child's choice or generally pressure the child to choose someone soon (especially when parents are hoping to become grandparents).

In almost all of the above cases except the traditional arranged marriage, the child may usually be presumed to have the option of finding a spouse on his or her own and presenting them to their parents who may or may not have any legal authority in deciding the matter with finality. Many children in cultures which do not promote arranged marriage view an arranged marriage as an option they may choose to use if they are unable or unwilling to spend the time and effort necessary to find an acceptable spouse on their own. In some cases, parental disapproval turns violent, even leading to loss of lives. This sometimes is the reason forcing children to marry according to parent's wishes.

Sometimes, the term "arranged marriage" may be occasionally be used even if the parents had no direct involvement in selecting the spouse. This could mean a meeting through a website or third party. Many Indians are choosing to meet their partners online, and the growth of Matrimonials Sites have become exponential over the past 5-10 years.

A "marriage of convenience" is the term is most often applied if the couple decides to marry primarily for reasons other than love.

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nails, good luck on your marriage too

AznshawtY - :S
thanks i guess! :P
good lucks on yours too! (wink,wink) :)

Is marriage even necessary in the first place? Something to think about ...

i'm kidding nails sweetie............lol...i'll always have a crush on you ni....hehe
hera na ..exams sakiyo..raining outside..what else is there to do other than to irritate you?hehehe

nnope its not^

if you want it ..,..it's necessary. If you don't.. it's not
plain and simple it is :-D

AeutiKt, that's a smart answer. But has anyone thought of living single or is it something that just happens. I am planning to stay single, so far I have been successful. I don't believe in this whole marriage thingy.

Lonely...

:-P

stay single :-) great idea.

but are u just saying that because you were hurt by someone just now? or was that your intention from the beginning?

wow..next krishna prasad bhattarai ji.

Trust me, I am not hurt and I am happy being single :). I have very less chance to get hurt since I don't believe in love...

^^ u can flirt w/ anyone anytime eh? like, bring it on baby!

LOL. The first thread that I happen to check.

Wah Lonely - kya mara. Aaa gale laag ja mere bhai. Happy being single; single being happy. I HEAR you. Re kya ;)

IndisGuis:)

good luck Mr_Lonely :-)

Indi...welcome to the single's party *hugs*...;)

Thanks AeutiKT. I am experimenting and so far the sample data I have collected have made me to come to this intermediate conclusion that yes, living single is possible, perhaps better in terms of happiness than married.

Lonely...

onely
u should stay single. never marry haii. gives u all the freedom in the world, if you know what i mean.
what say

lfc,
I will take your suggestion, although I could have lived without it re kya....

you could have lived wihtout my suggestion huh? well then you better practise what you preach about that 'staying single' thing going on ok.

I am not preaching. I said I am under experiment. So far its working and when I will die single some day, my experiment will be successful.

Lonely...

liar liar! u r experimenting quite the contrary and u r putting that under observation.