Here's the scenario.!!!....I came to US last semester and i go to college in Nebraska...First of all i didnt' know many nepalese people around the campus and i started talking to few girls and i was close to them. I started talking to some other people and after couple months i was close to most of the people. I am kind of girl that likes talking to people, joking around, and just for fun.......& i started talking to this one guy(Guy A) in my college, as i m that kind of girl, who likes talking to everybody, and u know making fun of people sometimes, i didn't know if that guy liked me or not but i never ever thought that Way..I talk to this guy doesn't mean that i like the Guy....Days passed, i started talking to his friend(Guy B) the same way and now the guy is mad at me for nothing. He's mad because i shared most of the things with his friend. I talk to both of them the same way. He's mad at me cuz i m close to one of his friend and i hang out with him.....He thinks that way but for me, I talk to his friend the same way i used to talk to him, so what's the diff ? Well its my choice, if i enjoy talking to somebody, i talk to him......Yesterday he(Guy A) came to me and said, "why do you talk to my friend(Guy B), why do u tell everything"? Its not like i liked him first and switched a guy...Cant i even talk to people ? Why do guys think like that ? Are most guys like that or is that the only one guy who thinks like that ? What should i tell that guy now ? When i started talking to guy A, maybe he was thinkin i fell in love with him or somethin ??? is that right ? if no why is he saying all those stuffs to me..??

You are what you are. You have got your independent life- live it how you like. BUT BE ACCOUNTABLE TO YOURSELF. There is always a thing to solace " Do I care? "

When you do care, have a conviction.

 

I am in different scenario, but what can I tell you is that, " There is no friendship in between man and women" So, you need to be clear with your frined that you are not in love with him. What is love?- sharing, and caring. Probably, he misunderstood your feeling. So, be clear.

I think Racheeta should speak with guy A and clear things up. Huna sakchha A ra B dubai sanga pani kura garna paros -- but the situation in question needs to be addressed-- sooner the better-- After a few replies sajhama thread kurako marma bhanda antai antai tira jana thalchha dherai jasto -- yata pani testai hudai chha kyare--

Thnx for the  suggestion yeklo bro, what seems like a racist to you isn't what it seems.....i just had put a small part  of the story........aaba college  ko kura garda.....ppl who date descent BLACK guys is ok.....but the BLACKS in this case were  all weed dealers  and hardcore boozers  aaba sittai ma grass  pauchaa bhanera kaale sanga salkera lagney kti haru le garda  hamilaii katti laaj lagthyo aaba aafaii thaa pau....as i am dating a white girl myself race dosen't matter but what kind of person are you into matters......so aaba mero yasma bhannu kei paani chaiina........

guys guys....
let's not be too harsh on racheeta, shall we? we cannot just assume and make her already entangled matter even worse for her to decide on.

what you all said could be right, but what she's telling can also be right, i.e. may be the guy misinterpreted her friendly expressions/actions/jives? and moreover, everything could be correct but still due to circumstances, we go through complications in life, no?

let's stop passing on judgments, racial slurs and gender discriminatory remarks...let's be solution-oriented rather than pin-pointing each other's faults.

so as deepbro mentioned, and as i see, the best possible solution in this regard for racheeta would be to TALK IN PERSON with both the guys and sort things out. clear any misunderstanding that's there.

life is a learning experience: we falter, we flunk in testing times, we learn and we move on...that's what life is about.

good luck to you racheeta

that said, again the reminder:
if he loves you, he loves you: NO ONE can stop that, coz  there's no stopping or coming back. emotions flow through a one way street hahaha

That’s stupid like can’t you talk about your things to more than one guy friend?!  I hate the type of boyfriends that like snooping in to almost everything that their girlfriends do, I mean as long as he has trust in you, why push you away by spying and becoming nosyy ? And in your case, he’s not even your boyfriend so it’d be pretty stupid for him to tell you who you should or shouldn’t talk, if he feels really jealous, let him deal with it, its not your problem. This really reminds me of back in the days in middle school as kids, pretty immature. You don’t just stop talking to people because your friends don’t want you to, you pick your friends and what you want to do. And if you’re this really outgoing person and you being his friend, he should know you well and put up with that kind of attitude. Its funny we usually mistaken guys for not being like a dramaqueen or socializing much but they are the ones that love to talk  to their guy friends about their friends or girlfriends behind their back and get  jealous and start fights!! if he thinks you're also in love with him, don't hurt him by keeping him in this love delusion, now be a lady and tell him that you DON'T like him as a boyfriend and stop tellig you what to do! common sense, honey.

Racheeta,

If it’s a real problem, go and talk to the guy A. as you already assumed that he, may thinks you are in love with him, right? So what are you waiting for ? Go and clear up things about what YOU think …simple as that.

Exposing personal problems in a public forum barely helps you to come up with any solid conclusion, it rather entertains other. So, Solve it yourself girl.

One thing I am amazed. If Racheeta thinks  that all guys are same  then why do you go and talk to guys and bring trouble to yourself.