I had quite many friends from Jhapa and i feel they are in general exaggerate, lie, makeup the stories and try to show up rich and smart. This is almost like their culture and most people there may not feel any thing out of it. I had talked this with my Jhapali friends they some how agree with it as well.

I always wondered why exactly it happened much earlier in Jhapa than in rest of the Nepal (I think all the people in Nepal from every part are becoming similar to Jhapali nowadays). I think it happened in jhapa much earlier because Jhapa was the first migration hub from mountains. When people from different place migrate to other place they dont know each other. Their history, and family background are unknown to each other. In that case how much you can impress others, by what ever means, becomes your prestige or background and so on. Since no one knew other people around them, they could not trust each other, so they fall in social trap of showcasing extra prestige by exaggerating, making up things and cheating. Once this momentum sets in society, even the people who otherwise honest get carried way in the flow.

I have some classmates from Jhapa they r cool, they do what all of us do.. But the one I stayed with were completely hide killer..

I am curious to learn about the root of this infamous sub-cultural prejudice against Jhapalis and Syanjalis by many who consider themselves non-Jhapalis. I will not make an attempt to shove my opinion on OC, no matter how much I dislike her opinion. There are many specific studies around 'unlearning automatic biases' but I am sure all my tirade towards OC's post will not make a dent to change her mind.

We are all victims of our own biases. Should I call this out as a subtle cultural inconvenience? I bet many will agree that it is more than subtle and a major inconvenience, especially when putting forth a perceptual point about biased thread like this. In Maha Jodi's 'Pandhra Gate', there is a scene where a father is opposed to his daughter potentially marrying a guy from a family that eats 'Dhindo' (although the serial is about caste system), I took that analogy to point out that some families in Kathmandu are disinclined to let their children marry outside the valley, more so with 'Dera Wals'or renters. Again a biased perception. By the way, I am from Saptari and lived only few years in Kathmandu, in a dera, so my perception about Kathmandu based families showing distaste in marrying away to a migrant dera wal is ingrained in me due to my personal circumstance. I am an outsider in Kathmandu and a dera wal; so the prejudice. I remember my cousin, from Siraha and currently a CTO in an Orange, CA tech company, had a hard time finding a woman to marry in Kathmandu. Last year, his mom was reminiscing that many families had retracted marriage conversation after they knew my cousins were living in a dera in Kathmandu. Eventually, he ended up marrying a girl from Kathmandu anyways, my point was to say, hey! I am not making sense. No matter how much I analogize, my bias reflects. We all know how altruistic, mellow, doped, sexy, intellectual, smelly, ugly, cunning and courteous Jhapalis are. But we seldom realize that's an attribute of all humans. Could we ban @MEverest, for thinking the way she does?
For me, I believe emigration and US education helped to tone down some of my personal prejudices. Which I concluded to believe that I would be more susceptible to stereotyping had I lived in the same place where I was born and received a homogeneous education. I then extrapolated, in my mind, that those circumstances give rise to subtle cultural dissonances shared by @MEverest.


http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11708562
http://www.quora.com/Are-most-stereotypes-true-Is-it-ever-okay-to-stereotype