Hello all suitable single guys out there, where do you go to meet your other half? I am in my late 20s and after getting so many pressure from my family, I decided to look for my own Mr. right.
Yeah, I was a little on pressure but I also think this is the time. I am well educated and have a stable job. I am not looking for anyway to change my status. And again, I do not think that should be the only reason to get married.
This is my first time looking for my Mr. Right but I do not know how to start. I checked out neaplmatrimonial.com but somehow it looks like just an extended version of shaadi.com for small audience of Nepal.
So if you think you know something about how to proceed, give me suggestions.
Thanks

Write more abt urself so that the guys of ur requirement can respond.

If you are looking for Mr. Right to get married in a short notice, then the best way to go is to ask your parents to start finding suitable candidates. I dont think posting in sajha is going to help you an awful lot.

Age: 24
Height: 5' 3"
Complexion: very fair
Look: Average
Location: TX, US
Prof: Teacher

I had a couple of proposals from other than Nepalese but I want someone from Nepal. I think this might be me avoiding future unseen disaster and I also expressing feeling would be easy with nepalese. And do not hate for me saying this that I want someone who has been living in US for a couple of years.
There is a lot share but I will see if someone will response me or direct me where would be better place to try.

Rhythm, thats a good idea. Somehow my parents as most of other nepalese parents tend to choose the guy they like and my preferenc is lost underneath somewhere. If you were a girl or women, you would understand. I do not see any wrong with asking help from my own people. I am asking help not begging. I think you forget the word "sajha."

Natali, am not trying to be all that wise and intellectual, but I guess, everything happens at the right time. No matter how hard you try, it won't work out if it's not in your destiny or before time. You are still young and if you really want a Nepalese guy, take your time to go back to Nepal, meet some people because you wouldn't know until you see and feel them with your own eyes and heart. Take your "Cheena" and consult with one of the best astrologer in town to weigh out your compatibilities and incompatibilities with the person you are going to commit your whole life. People think astrology is all about predicting future whereas its about how you deal with the people around you. Marriage is a very serious step, take all the measures before hand than to regret for your whole life. Good luck.

natali1, 24 isn't really late 20s. And I am telling you tht sajha wont be a great help, because if you are serious about what you are saying then you might find some of the feedbacks.. which are yet to come a bit frustrating as posting like yours do not seem to be taken seriously. Like grungemaster said, marriage is a BIG step. Where in TX are you? There are 1000s of nepali people here, but looking online is not the wisest thing to do, as virtual people can be pretty misleading. You think they are your prince in shining armor, until you meet them and realize that they are really ogres who live in the dirty swamps. And unless you are Fiona of course, that should not be a pretty picture!

have you considered RajKPandey, or UJJshrestha?
Just a thought
good luck to you.

Ujj will write you a personal mail babe. Check your email.

Are you ok if the personal is not from you cast?

I agree with gurungmaster, go to Nepal and live there a few months and have look around, you definiately will find a guy that you were dreaming for.

natali , 24 is just the beginning for a girl. this is the age when they come to realization of many things. this is the age when they gain perspective in life out of numerous crushes, prejudices, reservations and all. all sort of uninformed and opinionated views stop there and they feel like a woman in a true sense. they are more focused and more capable to judge what is right and what is wrong. most importantly, they learn to say strong sensible "NO", instead of all ignorant stupid Yes-es.

if my pa was my mom's type or  if my mom was my pa's type? they still  don't know and they never bothered to know. yet they have managed to come this far. don't marry for the sake of marrying. make sure what you want in life, coz there may be compatibilities, there may be everything that must have clicked but at the end of the day your heart may not beat an extra beat at his sight, instead you may be  getting goose-bumps thinking about the  future with him. again, if you can't come to conclusion  then just dive into arrange marriage. it is always there-the so called last resort. the water will push you up and keep you afloat.

i won't say sajha is not a rite platform to start with, since there are  quite many number of visitors and  most of them  are nepalese.but definitely you need to implement several filters to find the right fish from this pond. if not you may end up with shark, dolphin(if you are lucky), electric fish or a color changing chameleon who might be dating several others with the different names.then again, there are nice people too.i've ended up making many friends from sajha -lovely wonderful sisters, few brothers, and a whole lot of  frens.

one of my very good friend from sajha quoted once," cleo, sajha is full of sick people." yeah, i agree majority of people here are loner including myself. this is our virtual refuge. the world is a sea of sick people and sajha is not an exception. no one is normal if there exists any definition of normal as such.

i wish you luck. as they say you can only find it when you stop looking for it. additionally, there is no such person as Mr./ Miss Right for any of us. we have to turn them into one.

well, finding Mr or Ms right is not that easy.  since you are here in usa, pool is really small.  and you really would not know where other suitable candidates are residing here in usa.  i think it would be lot easier if you go back to nepal and get married with a descent guy.  if you want a guy from here, then try to do networking.  your friends or friends's friend might be of good help.  this is a problem for not only girls but also for professional guys. 

following news may not be very relevant for this post; I found this on today's kantipur.

You never know, Sajha may turn out to be the right palce for u to find a Mr.Right . It all depends on your luck too. I believe there is no dearth of Nepalese boys who are well educated and having very good job/business in America.Good luck!

ME TOO. I AM ALSO LOOKING FOR MR. RIGHT! I KNOW HE'S SOMEWHERE OUT THERE OR HERE.

HE MUST HAVE PROFESSIONAL JOB WITH GOOD INCOME.

SHOULD BE 5'8"--6'0" IN HEIGHT, I AM 5'6"!

MUST HAVE ATHLETIC BODY.

AGE SHOULD BE 18---32.

GOOD FAMILY BACKGROUND WITH NO CRIMINAL RECORDS.

DRINK MODERATELY CAUSE I DRINK TOO, BUT NO SMOKERS PLZ..........YOU STINK!

OK DAHLINGS BYE!

 

 

hmm...It is interesting to see a similar note from the other side. I believe the main problem with US educated girls is that they need someone from USA for various reasons. Guys are not willing to come to the States under the girl's visa and stay as a subordinate. Moreover, girls find this difference in thought and action between those guys who have stayed in States and those who have spent their life in Nepal unbearable. If the girl is educated, then the guy prefers to be equally educated if not more. This doesn't help the girl either.

I have seen many of my female friends who are MBA, MS graduates and making around 100k a year unable to find the right match. It is not true that there aren't any good guys out here but that these guys are unwilling to marry the girl who is a MBA if they themselves have not done it. Moreover, there is a power tussle in the family once both the members are well educated. Trust me, this sounds weird but this is the fact. A couple of my female friends have decided to stay single rather than spend time with someone they don't really accept from heart.

So, my suggestion? Girl, get married early than later. It will be way difficult to find a guy when you are in your late 20s (meaning 28/29) or early 30s than when you are actually 24/25. If you find someone, go for him, as long as he is good enough for you. Do not spend your life trying to find the mr. perfect one for you. Social gatherings are a great place to meet people. I know there are hundreds of nepalese organizations in texas. Go, mingle with people when they have gatherings. Expand your friend circle....good luck!!!

First off, 24 is not late 20's.

Second thing, I am also looking for a miss right, if there is anything like that. I am not asking you to "check me out" or anything like I am hitting on you, but it just made me laugh looking at the irony of the situation. You are here in America, I am here in America, you are looking, I am looking, your parents are pressuring, same here, but you and I are so near, yet, so far away that you are not looking at me and I am not looking at you. I am sure there must be some mathematical explanation for that.

Imagine a white, square plain, you and I are the only two people standing on that white plain (you are miss right, I am mr. right, for example). You are on the north west corner of the square, and I am at the south east and the angle is such that you don't see me and I don't see you. You keep looking for mr. right and I keep looking for miss right, and As time passes by, my search for miss right, and your search for mr. right start to diminish, and you and I, we both  settle for second best thing.

That sounds like "theory of relativity born again", just goes out of my head.

Anyway, what is the definition  of  mr right? Coz, if you ask me about my miss right, well, I might get banned from Sajha. :) I know, nasty, but the point is that is, my fantasy, you know, nothing that I want in my reality or may be I want it, but if I think about it, I might not want to live-with-it-everyday kind of fantasy.

Now the point is, I think its about time you pulled that "mr. right" crap out of your head, and look for the second best thing around you. Look at the Nepalese guys around you, try to read their nature, try to evaluate them, try to identify the guy who you think will be best on a long run, treats you right, you feel good around him. I am sure there are thousand other nepali "mr. right" floating around in your area. All you need to do is take that stupid "i wanna find mr. right" sunglass off your head and start analyzing the guys around you.

Well said cleopatra,

I totally agree with you on the "pond and right fish" example. You seem to be very understandable.

Natalie, good luck to you finding Mr. Right. I am sure when the right time comes, you'll definetely find him. For now, just have faith in the Almighty Lord and move forward with your search, you never know when the right time comes.

 

-HF

Thank you all for so many good suggesstions. I understand some people make joke out of this but what can I say... some people never grow up.
May be it is not late for me but I think you do not marry someone right away either. Most of my friends who got married they were relationship at least for 2 years. Even after knowing someone for that long could end up divorce.
I think there should be many out there like me but just that they are meeting people.
I am too shy that is how I grew up in culture- not to advertise myself in person. For this reason, even I am living in TX, I cannot approach the guy directly. Thank you for suggestion about meeting guy in Nepal. But trying to avoid many possiblities of opposing on my opinions, adjustment, male dominated society and such many things. I think many of them do not like the concept of spending time on understanding and learning about each other. If I am wrong, please women and girl out there correct me. I am not trying to humilate men back home. Many men change their behavior once they settle down to the foreign coutries. They respect women, give them time to do their personal stuffs and even help them in the kitchen.... This may seem such small things but very much deeply count to women life.
I think I am going too far away from the topic...
Again thank you all for your suggestions.
I just want to ask those women that are finding possible Mr. right that how do you find one. Again I use Mr. right here thinking that the guy is willing to spend time to know each other. I am not taking about "Hi you are nice and lets get marry tomorrow."
I hope I am not offending anyone here- just want some humble friendly advice.