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 is it ok to reveal past relationships with your future wife
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Posted on 03-10-07 6:11 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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need some advise from you wise people here in sajha........

i finally decided to get married with a very nice girl i met during my recent trip to nepal. i have had a few relationships before i met this wonderful girl. i did say her about all my past relationships. as for her, she has never had a relationship before and when we talk about my past girlfriends, which i try to avoid most of the time, she sometimes brings up situations/questions where i get cornered into telling her if i had sex with them (or have i had sex before). i have firmly decided not to go into details about my past relationships with my future wife.
my confusion are:
did i do the right thing by reveling my past relationships?
If it was the right thing then should i go into details about what i did and what i did not in my previous relationships?
how do women (future wife in this case) feel knowing about their man’s past relationships, especially when they have no previous relationship experience?
 
Posted on 03-10-07 6:33 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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if they ask then answer, if not then it's your choice to tell or not
i believe there should be no secrets but there are some you want to bury it forever
 
Posted on 03-10-07 6:43 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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Truth is always truth dude.
You met her and might get married. Tell her everything and don't wory that you will loose her. Marry the women who is okay with it.....Past is past dude...Be careful in the present and future that's all. If u have any kids that is the different thing rest should be fine. HOw can u be sure that lady did not have any relationship with anyone. It is just a luck dude. Who cares anyway....
 
Posted on 03-10-07 7:21 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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i am sure she did not have any previous relationships cause we both talked about all our past relationships (i did most of the talking cause she had none). we both decided to be completely open about everything before we get married......by the way no kids dudes:):).....just had a couple of girlfriends....
i believe i should not be going into details about previous relationships (esp if i had sex or not) cause i think she does have a feeling that i may have, since most of my past relationships has been outside of nepal.....it's just that i don't won't to let the words out myself (which i think i should not, don't know if i am right though)
 
Posted on 03-10-07 7:43 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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If you have no intensions of cheating her for other woen, just busy all those issues. It will make her more insecure and suspicious.
Just get serious with your arriage and think you never had sex before. You just had some platonic love affairs.
 
Posted on 03-10-07 8:03 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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hahaha... she told you and you believed her?whattheheck, dude!
 
Posted on 03-10-07 8:08 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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whattheheck...if ur feeln uncomfy to share those details..if u ask me..u shudnt :oD..wats ever right hoina?..it def sounds nice to open both ur closets before both of u journey together..but well if ur uncomfy about smthings..well im sure she can add 1+1 etc ;oP hehe...i mean those subtle hints about past relationships...overseas etc ;oP....cant please them all..everytime...but im sure u be tryn to please her more in the future esp since u couldnt 'please' her now and share all ur past stuffs eh?;oP hehe

anyways good luck :oD
 
Posted on 03-10-07 8:29 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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dannah,
hehehe opss. oeeeee. hehee
 
Posted on 03-10-07 8:51 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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sathi timile afno past ko barema timro budhi lai ali ali bhanyo..........timro budhi le kehia pani bhanena..........usko kunai past relationship thiyena bhaner dherai khushi nabhaye pani huncha........kt ko jat kasto huncha bhnera timilai pani ramrai sanga taha hunu parne ho.......kinbhane timro pahile nai 2 wota gf thiyo bhneko hoina ?
 
Posted on 03-10-07 9:00 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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It depends upen how your past relationship was at some point.If it was your fault than nobody wants to reveal his stupidity and lose the current one too.
 
Posted on 03-10-07 11:29 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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you can run but you can't hide. it's bound to bite you in your butt one way or another in the future.
 
Posted on 03-10-07 11:33 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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This is as much a personal trait as it is a moral issue.
You definately don't wanna lie, that's a moral issue. But how much you want to divuge, that depends upon you. If you are going to have a feeling that you are hiding something from your wife, then tell her those "secrets." If you are comfortable and don't think it is important, things that are not going to pop-up in future, then you can just keep it to yourself.
Things you consider meaningless might be a big-deal for her; so be prudent while opening up.
 


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